To cohabit: one of the dilemmas of the human being, specially, when this verb is accompanied of the phrase “in peace”. Hard task? Not exactly, if we find out how to follow those seven tips I tell you below – inspired, mostly, by “Chic[érrimo]” book wrote by Gloria Kalil. Take a look! 

1- CONSIDER THE OTHER ONE (WHICH MEANS: DON’T BE AN ASSHOLE) 

What does that mean, exactly? That you should treat anyone else, besides yourself, equally and respectfully. It seems obvious, but disregard attitudes can happen in few details, like interrupting someone before he/she completes his/her thoughts; like entering somewhere without saying “good morning/good afternoon/good evening”; like making inconvenient or prejudiced comments. Just to give you some examples. As Gloria Kalil uses to say: “considering other human being is the basic. Is like the little black dress, the dark blue suit (…) of the good social companionship” (translated to english). So, please: do not be an asshole.

2- DISGUISE YOUR NARCISSISM 

Looking at yourself in the mirror lots of times in public places, emphasizing your great and huge personal characteristics all the time and feeling like the center of the universe every single moment are some attitudes that reveal your narcissism. You must understand that the world is big and every single person matters, besides your wonderful personality and routine.

3- STOP TRYING TO MAKE TO OTHER ONE AGREE WITH YOU

Points of view and opinions are here fore we to expose and discuss, that’s true. But this is a fact once the dialogue don’t became a dictatorial system of oppression in which one person does not allow that someone disagrees with him/her. It is important learning how to respect each other’s opinions, even if we don’t like them. And there is more: if you pretend not to respect someone’s opinion, like it is kind of a joke, this is still a kind of oppression.   

4- DON’T BE A SHAME

Entering somewhere smoking, smoke in someone else’s car (specially without asking) and speaking loudly in public places are shame attitudes, according to etiquette rules. To have civility is never too much, right?

5- GIVES BACK WHAT YOU’VE BORROWED IN GOOD CONDITIONS

I must confess I hate borrowing things. Clothes and shoes even most. I am not saying this is pretty or cute or cool, but if you’re the kind of person who doesn’t matter getting things borrowed or borrow your things, just be sure that those things are in great conditions – for both cases. It’s terrible to give back something in worse conditions than when you took it in first place. 

6- THE WAY YOU DRIVE REVEALS WHO YOU ARE

If you’re the kind of person who doesn’t respect signs, neither gives preference to pedestrians, if you never permits passages of other drivers and call other drivers’ names every time, for anything: you’d better start reconsider your concepts. 

7- YOU ARE NOT PAID FOR JUDGE

People have the annoying obsession of commenting things when they receive some news about whatever subject it is. Have you ever thought that is not always someone wants to listen to your opinions? Most of times people are only giving you some information or simply revealing themselves and they don’t, necessarily, want your opinion about that. Contain yourself. 

Book credits: Gloria Kalil, Chic[érrimo] – moda e etiqueta em um novo regime. Editouro, Edição Atualizada. Rio de Janeiro, RJ.

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Did you like those tips? So let’s try to practice them and share with our friends, for them to know about that, too.

Xx and see you in the next post!